An unconventional fashion blogger trying to find her place on the internet

You’ve probably stumbled upon this post through social media, which is the norm for the majority of people today. I was chatting to a friend at work about how so many of us rely on it and are glued to our phones, instead of enjoying everyday life.
I have to say, I’m partial to spending a lot of time glued to my phone, which is predominantly due to my needing to keep an online presence and getting you guys back here to enjoy my writing and making everybody laugh.

If I had it my way, I wouldn’t spend half as much time on social media in order to grow my blog. I hate having to post on Instagram Monday to Friday (because weekends are a complete dud, it means I can have some time to myself) – although I do enjoy finding new people, new posts and inspiration to continue writing. But that’s how it works. You can’t expect everyone to find your blog without putting it out there for people to find and you need to network to grow.
However, there are some things that we all need to remember when it comes to social media before it starts to take over your life. I’ve decided to put a list together for everyone (including myself) to help us enjoy it for what it should be;

People (including you) only share what they want people to see

I was having a conversation at work about this the other day – most people tend to share what they want the world to see. There’s a lot to be said for couples/families oversharing the good times when in reality, they’re not having such a great time. It’s almost as if they’re trying to convince themselves, as well as the rest of their friends that everything is sunshine and daisies and not shit storm and dead grass (that’s the best description I could think of as the grass is completely dead in the UK due to the lack of rain we’ve had lol). Don’t always be fooled.

Not to compare yourselves to others

I find this one really hard, especially being a blogger. I’m constantly wondering what I need to do to make my blog that little bit better, whether I’m not growing at the rate I should be because I can’t dedicate as much time to it as someone that works on their’s full time, I don’t have the spare cash to drop on the newest clothes, I don’t fit the conventionally attractive profile we see from influencers – the list goes on!
Just remember that everyone’s life goes at its own pace, your time will come (whether that’s in a blog way, love, children, career – whatever) and remember what’s important to you.

Choose what you share wisely

We live in a world where we share what we had for dinner, whether someone should have stayed in Love Island or what we thought about the latest political scandal. We fall out with loved ones over petty political differences (I’m talking Brexit, elections, President Trump – yes he’s a wanker) and there’s always somebody that’ll get offended by something. Just remember that before you go on a tirade about how somebody’s views don’t align to your own.
I don’t ever engage in political talk online for this very reason – Twitter is full of the Corbynites, Facebook is full of the Brexiteers. Quite frankly, I can’t be bothered – notice how I haven’t told you what my views are? 😉

Live in the moment and not behind a screen

I love to capture good times on camera – it’s a document of a great time that I can look back on and smile. But it’s important to remember that you don’t need to Snapchat your entire night out or take photos of everyone posing for hours, making it look like you’re having a good time when in reality you haven’t spent any time socialising. PUT DOWN THE GOD DAMN PHONE!
Go out and enjoy it, limit how much you’re engrossed in your phone and just hope that your mates have it all covered – because not everyone’s going to be doing the same 😉
Ever wondered why you never seem to get photos of an amazing time? That’s because you’re so wrapped up in the moment that you don’t stop to think about taking videos/pictures (unless it’s truly hilarious – there’s a video of me running down the train and swinging around a pole from my hen night which was embarrassingly funny).

HATERS GON’ HATE

I had my first ever “troll” comment the other day. And I have to say I welcomed it! Some people might wonder why, but I think it’s a sign I’m doing something right. It wasn’t SO bad, just someone calling me gullible for thinking I could nab a genuine Gucci Marmont belt for £40 (they wrote $ so joke’s on them 😉) – if that post wasn’t getting so much traffic, I wouldn’t have attracted someone like that to my blog so…
Anyway, the point is that everyone isn’t going to like you, someone is always going to envy what you’re doing or dislike something you share online – because everyone’s got a bloody opinion. But you have to take a sip of your “don’t give a shit cocktail” and move the fuck on.

I hope you enjoyed today’s post and make sure to share some of your wisdom for life online in the comments below!

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