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Things we need to remember about social media

25/07/2018

You’ve probably stumbled upon this post through social media, which is the norm for the majority of people today. I was chatting to a friend at work about how so many of us rely on it and are glued to our phones, instead of enjoying everyday life.
I have to say, I’m partial to spending a lot of time glued to my phone, which is predominantly due to my needing to keep an online presence and getting you guys back here to enjoy my writing and making everybody laugh.

If I had it my way, I wouldn’t spend half as much time on social media in order to grow my blog. I hate having to post on Instagram Monday to Friday (because weekends are a complete dud, it means I can have some time to myself) – although I do enjoy finding new people, new posts and inspiration to continue writing. But that’s how it works. You can’t expect everyone to find your blog without putting it out there for people to find and you need to network to grow.
However, there are some things that we all need to remember when it comes to social media before it starts to take over your life. I’ve decided to put a list together for everyone (including myself) to help us enjoy it for what it should be;

People (including you) only share what they want people to see

Life’s a piece of shit
I was having a conversation at work about this the other day – most people tend to share what they want the world to see. There’s a lot to be said for couples/families oversharing the good times when in reality, they’re not having such a great time. It’s almost as if they’re trying to convince themselves, as well as the rest of their friends that everything is sunshine and daisies and not shit storm and dead grass (that’s the best description I could think of as the grass is completely dead in the UK due to the lack of rain we’ve had lol). Don’t always be fooled.

Not to compare yourselves to others

Always have faith in yourself
I find this one really hard, especially being a blogger. I’m constantly wondering what I need to do to make my blog that little bit better, whether I’m not growing at the rate I should be because I can’t dedicate as much time to it as someone that works on their’s full time, I don’t have the spare cash to drop on the newest clothes, I don’t fit the conventionally attractive profile we see from influencers – the list goes on!
Just remember that everyone’s life goes at its own pace, your time will come (whether that’s in a blog way, love, children, career – whatever) and remember what’s important to you.

Choose what you share wisely

We live in a world where we share what we had for dinner, whether someone should have stayed in Love Island or what we thought about the latest political scandal. We fall out with loved ones over petty political differences (I’m talking Brexit, elections, President Trump – yes he’s a wanker) and there’s always somebody that’ll get offended by something. Just remember that before you go on a tirade about how somebody’s views don’t align to your own.
I don’t ever engage in political talk online for this very reason – Twitter is full of the Corbynites, Facebook is full of the Brexiteers. Quite frankly, I can’t be bothered – notice how I haven’t told you what my views are? 😉
Theresa May

Live in the moment and not behind a screen

I love to capture good times on camera – it’s a document of a great time that I can look back on and smile. But it’s important to remember that you don’t need to Snapchat your entire night out or take photos of everyone posing for hours, making it look like you’re having a good time when in reality you haven’t spent any time socialising. PUT DOWN THE GOD DAMN PHONE!
Go out and enjoy it, limit how much you’re engrossed in your phone and just hope that your mates have it all covered – because not everyone’s going to be doing the same 😉
Ever wondered why you never seem to get photos of an amazing time? That’s because you’re so wrapped up in the moment that you don’t stop to think about taking videos/pictures (unless it’s truly hilarious – there’s a video of me running down the train and swinging around a pole from my hen night which was embarrassingly funny).

HATERS GON’ HATE

I had my first ever “troll” comment the other day. And I have to say I welcomed it! Some people might wonder why, but I think it’s a sign I’m doing something right. It wasn’t SO bad, just someone calling me gullible for thinking I could nab a genuine Gucci Marmont belt for £40 (they wrote $ so joke’s on them 😉) – if that post wasn’t getting so much traffic, I wouldn’t have attracted someone like that to my blog so…
Anyway, the point is that everyone isn’t going to like you, someone is always going to envy what you’re doing or dislike something you share online – because everyone’s got a bloody opinion. But you have to take a sip of your “don’t give a shit cocktail” and move the fuck on.
Haters gonna hate
I hope you enjoyed today’s post and make sure to share some of your wisdom for life online in the comments below!Until Next Time

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  1. blacktulipbeauty says

    27/07/2018 at 9:54 pm

    Ugh yep I totally agree with literally everything here. Especially the one about people only putting what they want you to see and comparing yourself to others! It’s mad as I know so many people who post the soppiest things all over fb about their relationship but behind the scenes it’s up and down more times than a bloody yoyo! Nobody has the perfect life and I try my best to be as honest as I can on social media, whether it be about having a bad MH day or a bad day with my illness – although I try not to moan too much about that as I think people would get fed up, oops! I think it’s refreshing when people are totally and completely honest about taboo subjects. But we all definitely need a big ol’ break from social media sometimes!
    Alice Xx

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    • Gabrielle Albon says

      28/07/2018 at 8:58 am

      EXACTLY!! It’s crazy how it’s completely changed everyone’s lives and it’s turned into a big masquerade that people can hide behind (although I’m sure people have been doing it long before social media was a thing!) ❤️❤️

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  2. jazziepickles says

    28/07/2018 at 7:55 pm

    Couldn’t agree with this more. I spend waayyyy to much of my time on social media and I’m constantly comparing myself and my blog to others. Such a bad trait of mine! It’s so hard to limit your time on social media when you’re a blogger. I think I’m gonna start scheduling tweets and Instagram posts to cut back a little <3 x

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    • Gabrielle Albon says

      28/07/2018 at 8:22 pm

      I deffo need to start scheduling so I don’t spend as much time on it – mad how much it’s taken over our lives in just a few years! ❤️

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  3. Meg (@CoffeewithMegxo) says

    29/07/2018 at 10:09 am

    So true! bloody loved this post Gabby! xx

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    • Gabrielle Albon says

      29/07/2018 at 10:13 am

      Thanks lovely! ❤️❤️

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  4. According to Alice says

    29/07/2018 at 7:57 pm

    I love this post so much! It’s super important to have a social media cleanse every now and then and do something that doesn’t involve your phone whatsoever. Plus I always try to not go on my phone at social events as I just feel like it looks so rude and distracts from what’s actually going on around you. If I don’t have a break I get way too caught up in comparing myself and thinking I’m not good enough, I have to remind myself we’re only seeing the best bits of them and we all have bad days etc. x
    Alice // http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

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    • Gabrielle Albon says

      29/07/2018 at 10:29 pm

      Same!! I won’t get my phone out if we’re out to dinner or at someone’s house as I don’t want to come across as rude! Xxx

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  5. charlotteannelane103 says

    30/07/2018 at 3:03 pm

    Love this post Gaby! It’s difficult remembering that everyone shares the good times and the good photos – no one’s going to post a selfie of them crying or a failed flat lay are they?! I’m SO bad for comparing myself to others and I swear it’s getting worse haha! Hopefully I’ll get out of this rut soon xo
    Char | http://www.charslittleblog.co.uk

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    • Gabrielle Albon says

      30/07/2018 at 5:07 pm

      Ahh I’m sure you will lovely, I don’t think it ever fully goes away! But you can always keep on reminding yourself! Xx

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