I cannot believe that I’m going to be getting married this year – Aaron and I have been together for ten and a half years and it’s something I’ve been waiting a REALLY long time for (many hints over the years – I’m not going to deny it lol), so it was inevitable that once we got engaged that I would be doing everything at supersonic speed, within a month of getting home from Thailand, we’d booked the church and reception, I’d found the bridesmaid dresses and everything started to come together.
That was over a year ago now and we’re now just over four months away from the day and it’s starting to hit me that this is actually happening! I’ve been getting all of the decorations ready, made our invites for the day (I’ve still got to finish the reception ones!), have made some centre pieces and flower bouquets for the bridesmaids using some artificial flowers (I’ll be damned if I’m spending £90+ for a small bloody bouquet!), in addition to loads of other random bits and bobs. Make sure to check out my post on some of the things I’ve been doing to save money on our big day here.
I started to write this post a while back and didn’t really know where I was going with it, but on Friday I woke from a wedding nightmare -(yes people, I’m actually having nightmares about the day going to shit – which I’ve heard is quite normal!), which is when I started thinking to myself “Right Gaby, you’ve got a big old event to plan and better start getting everything in order”.
It’s funny, but on the Friday evening I received an email from the girl at our venue asking about numbers for the reception and if we could book in a meeting to chat about it all as it’s not too long now! I sat there thinking about who I’d invited so far for the meal and how I still needed to do a proper table plan, panicking about sitting the wrong people together and stressing about the whole thing. I then started asking Aaron about who we were going to be inviting to the reception as we hadn’t planned any of it out, to which he replied “Gaby, it’s bloody Friday evening and you’re asking me this now?!” – uh yeah, when the hell else am I going to ask?!
So I started to make a list of names and writing up a couple of things which I still needed to do in my wedding planner (thank you Auntie Sheri, it’s been a bloody god send!); finish lining the bridesmaid dresses, sort out the dresses for the flower girls, get Aaron to get his bloody suit sorted so that we can get our nephew his little suit as our page boy, buy some chair covers for the venue (I’ll be damned if I’m spending £300+ to hire some poxy chairs when they already have them there), among various other little bits I’ve still got left to do.
Later on the following day, I was chatting to Aaron’s mum about the table plans as Aaron asked where so-and-so was going to be sitting, when she said to me “Gaby, why don’t you just let everyone pick a table to sit at, then let that be that?” I sat there thinking about it and realised it wasn’t a bloody bad idea! We’re having a hog roast style buffet, so it’s not like everyone’s going to be having a set menu, so why stress myself out about it? It’s our wedding after all!
When I got home that night, I emailed the venue to confirm the number we had so far, the church to ask about when we could meet to talk about the ceremony and the church in our parish to check they’d received our banns forms (we’re getting married outside of our parish so they need to be read in both – let me know in the comments if you’d like a whole post on what I’ve learnt about weddings, the lingo and unexpected costs of getting married). I then decided to head on over to Facebook to share my thoughts, asking if we were mental in thinking about not doing a seating plan.
And boy did people have some opinions on the matter! I didn’t really think I’d get much of a response, but there was a mixture of; you MUST do a seating plan, I wish I’d done it, Asian weddings don’t have seating plans so I wouldn’t worry about it and it’s yours and Aaron’s day, do whatever you want!
And do you know what we’re going to do? We’re going to let the parents sit with us at the top table and everyone else can decide where they want to go (provided the venue don’t mind lol!)